Why It’s Ok To Treat Yourself And 5 Ways To Do So

The topic of treating yourself definitely has sides and I’ve heard both. Some people think that treating yourself is selfish while others fully embrace the idea of treating themselves. I’ve been on both sides so I think that it gives me a different perspective. I used to think that if I were to ever think of myself that’d I’d be selfish and so I spent the majority of my time only concerning myself with the needs of other people. You could say I was a people pleaser and if I’m being honest to a certain degree I still am. However, I contribute the consistent concern with the needs of others to a portion of my declined health mentally, spiritually and physically. It can be utterly exhausting to take on everyone else’s needs or wants and neglect your own. Not to mention if those very people that you’ve spent so much time and attention on do not reciprocate and take advantage of you. This can leave you feeling depleted and resentful and you don’t want that. For myself personally, I have come to the conclusion that I need to treat myself once in awhile. It is wrong to fully neglect your own needs while focusing on the needs of others. There has to be balance. Balance is the key. I think treating yourself once in awhile and making sure your needs are met is 100% ok. I’ll share how I treat myself and then give you all some ideas on ways you can also treat yourself.

 

I decided last year that I would create room in my monthly budget to treating myself. This decision was one of the best things I have done for my overall wellbeing and health. I don’t count necessary purchases as treats so that means shampoo and toothpaste don’t count! It’s the extras. The things that bring me joy. The little luxuries. I have made my max budget for treats to be $100. Sometimes I go over and sometimes I’m way under. I don’t really sweat it too much but I do try to stay under the $100 treat yourself cap since I’m also saving for other life things at the moment. I also created a “Treat Yourself” board on Pinterest which helps me to collect ideas of things I want to do or little things I’d love to have. This plan has worked really well for me and since I’ve started to do this I don’t find myself feeling defeated anymore and I have more joy in helping others again. So I highly recommend to people to fit in a treat yourself fund into their budget. There are plenty of ways to treat yourself and there’s something for every budget. Even free things! Now I’m going to give you some examples of ways that you can treat yourself.

 

1. Rest– Treat yourself to a good nights rest or nap. This doesn’t cost you anything and it’ll feel so good! Most people are not getting enough rest so I’d say that there’s a good chance you could use it. Rub some lavender essential oil on the bottoms of your feet or diffuse it, turn off all lights, make sure your phone is turned off and nowhere near you, hop in bed and just close your eyes. Whatever it takes to get good quality rest do it. I’ve also used sleep meditation before and that works like a charm for me.

 

2. Spa Time– Make an appointment and schedule some time for yourself to get a massage or facial. You just can’t go wrong here. If you have any allergies make sure ahead of time that your esthetician knows. They should have you fill out paperwork beforehand listing any allergies but it might be a good idea to call ahead of time and make sure they are using good quality, non-toxic products that meet your specific needs.

 

3. Read A Book– Take 15-30 minutes to read a new book or an old favorite. There’s just something about curling up with a good book that brings so much satisfaction. I like to read books that challenge me or make me think. I also occasionally like to read my favorite childhood books like the BFG. It makes for a nice escape from stress.

 

4. Take A Mental Health Day- Occasionally I think it’s good to take a day off from work, if you can, to just check in with yourself, evaluate yourself and see how you’re doing mentally. Maybe just catch up on rest. Whatever it means to you to take time away to clear your mind, and come back into balance so you can go back to work refreshed, do it. You may find that you feel the need to make some changes in your life and you’ll be glad you took the time to check in. Weekends, of course, will work if you can’t take time off from work.

 

5. Purchase Something From Your Wishlist– Create a wishlist of things you’d like to have, (I keep mine on Pinterest) and then when it comes time to treat yourself buy one or a couple of the items from your wish list that fit into your treat yourself budget. I think this is one of the easiest ways to treat yourself. Maybe it’s a piece of artwork you’ve had your eye on, a new book, supplies to create a project you’ve been wanting to do, makeup, ingredients for a new recipe you’ve wanted to try, jewelry, clothing, shoes etc. The list really could go on and on.

 

I hope this gives you some ideas on ways to treat yourself. I’d also love to read your suggestions below so If you have any ways in which you like to treat yourself let us know in the comments 🙂

 

Ashley

How To Apply Blush – The Basics

Most women don’t apply blush the right way.

It’s very simple, but often misunderstood.

A customer told me yesterday after watching the above video, “Wow, Andrea, I’ve been putting on blush wrong for 40 years! I was always a swirl it on the apples of your cheeks person…”

Applying blush in the way that I show in this video will get you the most natural look possible.

The goal of blush is to give us a natural glow, a realistic flush that makes us look awake, alive, and refreshed.

To look like the best version of yourself! And here’s how to do it.

The tricks:

  1. Start with very little blush on your brush – you can always add more
  2. Dot blush from the apples to the temples, creating a diagonal line
  3. Use the brush in an oval up and down motion – blending from the line into the rest of your skin

Bonus Points: Apply bronzer in addition to blush for a stunning warmth and glow.

Learn how to apply bronzer here: https://www.redapplelipstick.com/2017/01/how-to-apply-bronzer/

Have specific concerns about not looking clownish or old, watch my other video here: CLICK HERE

Find your perfect blush shade: https://www.redapplelipstick.com/blush/

 

How To Apply Bronzer – And Still Look Like Yourself

Bronzer is the key to a warm, beautiful and natural glow.

But most people don’t realize you can use it very easily WITHOUT doing all the heavy contouring, highlighting, and tons of products found on the red carpet these days.

By using bronzer to lightly shade three areas of your face, you can define and lift your cheekbones and jawline.  You can add warmth to the outer part of your face which will illuminate the center.

You can apply bronzer easily and naturally by following the steps I talk about in this video.

Just remember these three areas:

  1. Directly underneath your cheekbones
  2. Around the perimeter of your face near your hairline
  3. Underneath your jaw line

There are bonus areas you can apply it for extra warmth, but it’s not necessary to give you the warm glow we’re going for.

Bonus areas:

  1. Along the sides of your nose
  2. Along the front of your neck
  3. In your cleavage 😉

Have fun playing with how to apply bronzer, because paired with the right blush shade – it’s a beautiful combination.

Find your perfect blush shade: www.redapplelipstick.com/blush

How To Apply Blush: https://www.redapplelipstick.com/2017/01/how-to-apply-blush-basics/

How To Apply Blush and Not Look Clownish or Older Than You Are: https://www.redapplelipstick.com/2017/01/not-look-old-clownish-wearing-blush/

How To Not Look Old or Clownish When Wearing Blush

She told me, “I don’t wear blush because it makes me look like a clown.”

I’ve heard this statement numerous times.

I’ve also been asked, “How can blush make me look younger…or at least not older than I am…?”

In this video, I explain how to avoid both looking clownish and looking old.

They share the same fixes, and are easier than you might think!

  1. Pick the right shade
  2. Blend and apply the right way (demonstrated)
  3. Apply blush in the correct locations for your age (explained)

Find your perfect blush shade: www.redapplelipstick.com/blush

How To Apply Blush – The Basics: https://www.redapplelipstick.com/2017/01/how-to-apply-blush-basics/

If you’re not using bronzer yet, you should be…learn how to apply bronzer: CLICK HERE

 

Red Apple Lipstick’s Blush + Bronzer Naming Contest: Day 7 CLOSED

*CLOSED* Day #7…that means today is the final day of our Blush + Bronzer Naming contest. All of our products are named by customers like YOU and we need your help in naming our new bronzer. This is a fun and interactive way for you to be involved with Red Apple Lipstick PLUS it’s a fabulous way to WIN a $100 dollar Red Apple Lipstick Gift Card. To join you’ll simply leave a comment suggesting as many names as you’d like on this post for the bronzer. We’ll choose the winning name at the end of the day, and the winner will receive a $100 dollar RAL Gift Certificate. It’s super fun! *CLOSED*

 

Help us give Bronzer B307 a name by leaving your suggestions in the comments below.

 

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Reminder: These vegan, allergen friendly, non-toxic, mineral blush colors, bronzer, AND a new amazing brush launches on January 21st. Pre-Registration means you’ll receive the best deal. We’ll have a private sales page with special deals for those who register before January 19th. Registration is simple here -> https://www.redapplelipstick.com/blush

UPDATE: Thank you everyone for joining our naming contest for these new blushes and bronzer. Today was the last day which is always bittersweet. We’ve decided to go with the name Sundrop suggested by Heather B here on the blog. Again, I just want to thank you all for joining. I enjoyed going through the suggestions and getting little laughs here and there on the word play and puns (one of my favorite things!) These new blushes, bronzer and brush will be out on Jan. 21st. Registration for the sale is still open. Those that register will get a special, VIP only opening price from Jan 21 – Jan 27th by pre-registering at https://www.redapplelipstick.com/blush
I also wanted to mention that we’ll be having another one of our super fun twitter parties on the 22nd. More info on that coming Friday. Enjoy the rest of your weekend everyone! <3

Red Apple Lipstick’s Blush + Bronzer Naming Contest: Day 6 CLOSED

It’s Day #6 of our Blush + Bronzer Naming contest which means we’re super close to having all these new blushes named. For those who are maybe just joining, all of our products are named by customers like YOU. It’s a fun and interactive way for you to be involved with Red Apple Lipstick PLUS it’s a fabulous way to WIN a $100 dollar Red Apple Lipstick Gift Card. Here’s how you can join, each day we’re posting a photo of a new blush color (bronzer comes tomorrow). You’ll simply leave a comment suggesting as many names as you’d like for that particular product. We’ll choose the winning name at the end of each day, and the winner will receive a $100 dollar RAL Gift Certificate. It’s super fun!

 

Help us give Blush B301 a name by leaving your suggestions in the comments below.

 

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Reminder: These vegan, allergen friendly, non-toxic, mineral blush colors, bronzer, AND a new amazing brush launches on January 21st. Pre-Registration means you’ll receive the best deal. We’ll have a private sales page with special deals for those who register before January 19th. Registration is simple here -> https://www.redapplelipstick.com/blush

Update: We will announce the name today.

UPDATE: I hadn’t announced the winner for this day’s blush yet. I was going to wait until we had the bronzer name picked out but I did see Andrea had sent the email with the name chosen so I figured I would go ahead and announce here as well. There were so many good ones to choose from. In fact it had come down to two and we decided to go with M’Lady suggested by Mindy Dukes. I really personally got a kick out of it cause’ now I can say I’m wearing M’Lady blush <3 Thank you all for participating in the naming contest and I hope you've had fun.

Red Apple Lipstick’s Blush + Bronzer Naming Contest: Day 5 CLOSED

*CLOSED* Welcome to Day #5 of our Blush + Bronzer Naming contest. For those of you who don’t know or who are maybe just joining, all of our products are named by customers like YOU. It’s an exciting and interactive way for you to be involved with Red Apple Lipstick PLUS it’s a fabulous way to WIN a $100 dollar Red Apple Lipstick Gift Card. Each day we’ve been posting a photo of a new blush color. You’ll simply leave a comment suggesting as many names as you want for that particular product. We’ll choose the winning name at the end of each day, and the winner will receive a $100 dollar RAL Gift Certificate. It’s super fun and we’ve been enjoying going through the name suggestions. *CLOSED*

 

Day #5 let’s go! Help us give Blush B306 a name by leaving your suggestions in the comments below.

 

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Reminder: These vegan, allergen friendly, non-toxic, mineral blush colors, bronzer, AND a new amazing brush launches on January 21st. Pre-Registration means you’ll receive the best deal. We’ll have a private sales page with special deals for those who register before January 19th. Registration is simple here -> https://www.redapplelipstick.com/blush

UPDATE: Day #5 has come to a close and the winning name is Good Vibes . Congrats to April D Johnson. Thank you all for participating 🙂 We have two more days to go. Woot Woot!

Red Apple Lipstick’s Blush + Bronzer Naming Contest: Day 4 CLOSED

*CLOSED* Woot Woot! Day #4 of our Blush + Bronzer Naming contest! Our naming contests allow YOU the customer to be involved with Red Apple Lipstick in a super fun way AND it’s also an awesome way to WIN a $100 dollar Red Apple Lipstick Gift Card. Each day we’re posting a photo of a new blush color. You’ll simply leave a comment suggesting as many names as you want for that particular product. We’ll choose the winning name at the end of each day, and the winner will receive a $100 dollar RAL Gift Certificate. It’s super exciting and we love going through all of your suggestions. *CLOSED*

 

Let us get started with day #4 🙂 Help us give Blush B305 a name by leaving your suggestions in the comments below.

 

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Reminder: These vegan, allergen friendly, non-toxic, mineral blush colors, bronzer, AND a new amazing brush launches on January 21st. Pre-Registration means you’ll receive the best deal. We’ll have a private sales page with special deals for those who register before January 19th. Registration is simple here -> https://www.redapplelipstick.com/blush

UPDATE: Day #4 has come to a close and the winning name is Gotta Glow . Congrats to Kim (blog). Thank you all for participating and join us again tomorrow for day #5

Red Apple Lipstick’s Blush + Bronzer Naming Contest: Day 3 CLOSED

*CLOSED* Red Apple Girls are you ready for Day #3 of our Blush + Bronzer Naming contest?! All of our products are named by customers like you. It’s a super fun way for you to be involved with Red Apple Lipstick AND a fabulous way to WIN a $100 dollar Red Apple Lipstick Gift Card. Each day we’re posting a photo of a new blush color. You’ll simply leave a comment suggesting as many names as you want for that particular product. We’ll choose the winning name at the end of each day, and the winner will receive a $100 dollar RAL Gift Certificate. It’s super exciting and we LOVE reading all of your suggestions.*CLOSED*

 

Now, let’s begin day #3! Help us give Blush B304 a name by leaving your suggestions in the comments below.

 

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Reminder: These vegan, allergen friendly, non-toxic, mineral blush colors, bronzer, AND a new amazing brush launches on January 21st. Pre-Registration means you’ll receive the best deal. We’ll have a private sales page with special deals for those who register before January 19th. Registration is simple here -> https://www.redapplelipstick.com/blush

UPDATE: Day #3 has come to a close and the winning name is Tango. Congrats to Patricia Wright 🙂 Thank you all for participating! Join us for more fun and day # 3 tomorrow.

Red Apple Lipstick’s Blush + Bronzer Naming Contest: Day 2 CLOSED

*CLOSED* Red Apple Girls welcome to Day #2 of our Blush + Bronzer Naming contest. For those of you who are just joining and maybe don’t know, all of our products are named by customers like YOU. It’s a fun and interactive way for you to be involved with Red Apple Lipstick AND a fabulous way to WIN a $100 dollar Red Apple Lipstick Gift Card. Each day we’ll post a photo of a new blush color. You’ll simply leave a comment suggesting as many names as you want for that particular product. We’ll choose the winning name at the end of each day, and the winner will receive a $100 dollar RAL Gift Certificate. It’s super fun and we thoroughly enjoy going through the name suggestions. *CLOSED*

 

Let’s get started with day #2! Help us give Blush B303 a name by leaving your suggestions in the comments below.

 

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Reminder: These vegan, allergen friendly, non-toxic, mineral blush colors, bronzer, AND a new amazing brush launches on January 21st. Pre-Registration means you’ll receive the best deal. We’ll have a private sales page with special deals for those who register before January 19th. Registration is simple here -> https://www.redapplelipstick.com/blush

UPDATE: Day #2 has come to a close and the winning name is Coy. Congrats to Laurie Clark 🙂 Thank you all for participating! Join us for more fun and day # 4 tomorrow.